When I saw this question as a prompt my first thought was, “No one will be interested in that.” Then I realized that quite often, my first thought is an attempt to avoid a place that feels too vulnerable. I wondered why I felt vulnerable writing about what inspires me. My biggest inspiration is my [...]
I’m often asked how I can be joyful and live the life I am living when I’m doing it without my daughter’s presence in my life. I’m asked if I have gotten over her death, or if I’ve healed and accepted her death. I will never get over Leah’s death. I’ve had a 20-year [...]
Self-care is a hot topic these days. Taking care of ourselves is important. One of the things I’ve discovered is that self-care is necessary for us to step fully into who we are meant to be in this world. This was an important lesson for me as I excavated the life I was meant to [...]
It’s been 8 months since we’ve moved to St. Paul from Raleigh, NC. We moved here to be closer to my son and his family. Our granddaughter Ayra was born in July of 2020, and after we met her, we knew that we wanted to be a part of her everyday life. One of the [...]
I’ve been having a lot of conversations lately about how we are feeling as we emerge from the absurdity of the last year. The way we showed up in the world changed in an instant. The way we did business shifted, maybe forever. The way we socialized was distanced. From the first time I [...]
It occurred to me that if you are a recent reader of my blog, you might not know how I got to a place where I’m able to be vulnerable about my grief journey. Let me take a few minutes to bring you up to date. All my life I’ve been a seeker. Even as [...]
I took this picture on a recent walk. I've always been fascinated by wrought iron gates. Gates are a common image in guided meditations, in dreams, on a walk. For me, they represent entrances into a mysterious place, my inner realm. Gates have appeared at many important times of my life. There was a [...]
One of the biggest changes I've experienced as I traveled along my grief journey is speaking up; I've reclaimed my voice. As I prepared to bring my book into the world I needed to cultivate the capacity to tell my story in the way I was being called to tell it. This was very [...]
One of the things that I often talk about is recognizing the impact that the rhythm of time has had on my grief journey. All throughout my life, I’ve always been fascinated by how time can feel different, depending on what is going on. Maybe that’s why I was so aware of the surreal [...]
Sometimes it’s good to go back to the basics. I’ve been talking about grief for a long time. I sometimes forget that not everyone is as comfortable talking about it as I am. Let’s talk for a moment about what grief is. Grief is the normal response to any loss. We experience a lot [...]
