Thriving after Loss

Sitting in the Mystery

Today I’ve been thinking a lot about my journey, not only my grief journey but the entirety of my journey here on earth. While Leah’s death and my subsequent journey to find meaning and purpose in my life again is the single most profound event in my life, what I recognize is that the [...]

Sitting in the Mystery2020-03-17T09:40:00-04:00

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination

Last week I invited friends and colleagues to share some of their new holiday traditions they started, after the death of family members. I've received many great re-imagined traditions as families search for new meaning celebrating the holidays without their loved ones present. My good friend Nancy Ruffner shared the following. When I read [...]

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination2020-02-03T13:41:39-05:00

Dancing on the Edge of the Unknown

I’ve been in a time of not doing for a while now, and I’ve struggled against it, wanting to do rather than be. During this time I was a presenter at a business retreat that was planned way before I entered this space, and it came together seamlessly. This was confirmation that, when I’m working [...]

Dancing on the Edge of the Unknown2020-02-03T13:43:41-05:00

My Grief Journey is Like a Compost Pile

My yearlong quest is over.I spent my birthday in Minneapolis, reflecting, in gratitude, and connecting with beloved family. We talked a lot about grief, and where our journeys have taken each of us.We were all grieving the same person, Leah, and we all had profoundly different experiences. Each of our lives were frozen in the [...]

My Grief Journey is Like a Compost Pile2020-02-03T13:46:12-05:00

Lessons From My Shoulder Surgery

What did I learn from my down time, while I was recovering from shoulder surgery?As I reflect on this time, it is clear to me that my surgery and the time after was not down time at all. Let me explain.Since the beginning of this year I’ve been aware of clarity of language, more precisely, [...]

Lessons From My Shoulder Surgery2020-02-03T13:44:38-05:00

Another Milestone

As I write these words, I am marking the 18th anniversary of Leah’s death. The week that starts with her accident and ends with her death is always different each year. There is always a surreal quality to them. I decided to take this day to be with my thoughts, to write, to contemplate, to [...]

Another Milestone2019-07-09T07:28:49-04:00

Profound Insights and Feeling What We’re Feeling

It’s back to school time. I live in an area with year round schools but I’ve been seeing back-to-school pictures and posts since July. It’s this time of year, however, when traditional schools return to class that remind me that I will soon be entering the months leading up to Leah’s accident. The new school [...]

Profound Insights and Feeling What We’re Feeling2018-08-22T18:38:16-04:00

Many Facets of Grief

Grief travels a diverse and twisted road. It’s often a road that we could never have imagined. I remember thinking that I was grieving for my daughter, Leah, differently than I ever thought I would. You will encounter many facets or aspects of grief as you travel this road. The facets may also be seen as [...]

Many Facets of Grief2018-07-11T10:44:43-04:00

Another Turn Around the Sun

As I write this, we’ve entered into my birthday month; by the time you read this, my birthday will have passed. There was a time when I didn’t look forward to my birthday; a time when my birthday didn’t live up to my expectation. The problem was, I didn’t really know what I wanted my [...]

Another Turn Around the Sun2018-06-17T11:52:22-04:00

Claiming My Voice

2017 was the year I claimed my voice. It was the year I began to tell my story at my book events. Each time I spoke my story I felt more and more like myself. It felt like I was breathing life into a part of myself that I was never quite sure would ever [...]

Claiming My Voice2018-02-09T15:22:27-05:00