Milestones and Holidays

Nothing can knock the wind out of our sails like the approach of a holiday or a milestone day. Even after over 21 years my daughter’s birthday can bring tears. Mother’s Day is bittersweet. The year-end holidays can bring sadness. All of these occasions also bring immense joy and celebration too. I didn’t come to [...]

Milestones and Holidays2022-01-12T14:47:58-05:00

Everyday Grief

One of the gifts of my grief journey was realizing that grief is a lifelong journey. That idea may have been peripheral before Leah died, yet as I navigated the months and years after she left us, I became much more aware of how grief affects our everyday lives. Before Leah died, I had experienced [...]

Everyday Grief2022-01-12T14:43:34-05:00

Blessing and Grace

Blessings and Grace became the mantra of my grief journey. I found that each time I was able to meet my feelings of grief in my heart I would receive blessings and grace, each and every single time. When this first happened, I was perplexed.  I didn’t think that I deserved to receive blessing and [...]

Blessing and Grace2022-01-12T14:24:43-05:00

Staying and Leaving

All my life I had been fearful of endings. Endings meant I would have to change the way I did things. Endings were uncomfortable. I did everything I could to hold on to things for as long as I could. And then Leah died, and I experienced an ending that I couldn’t undo. It was [...]

Staying and Leaving2022-01-02T14:46:07-05:00

Grief As initiation

Rereading this chapter was interesting. It took me right back into the feelings that I had as I was beginning to find my voice in the middle of my grief journey. For years before Leah died, I had been working thorough childhood wounds. Leah’s death created a sense of urgency that I hadn’t felt before. [...]

Grief As initiation2021-12-20T12:30:19-05:00

Renovations

If you are like me, the thought of renovating a house brings excitement. Renovations mean newness, new paint colors, new furniture, and perhaps new room configurations. Have you ever considered that in order to renovate, we first have to deconstruct the space? Demolition and deconstruction are messy. It is during this time that we may [...]

Renovations2021-12-19T13:29:49-05:00

Radical Grief

This was a hard chapter to read, and as I recall it was a hard one to write. It tells the story of my relationship with Leah and some of the struggles we had as she was growing up. I remember when I was writing it that I wanted to be true to the [...]

Radical Grief2021-11-29T14:04:11-05:00

Family Vacations

Recently we took a family vacation with our son and his family. We went to northern MN, to the boundary waters. The lake we were at was at the Canadian border. As a matter of fact, the border was in the middle of the lake. Here are some photos of our trip. I think they [...]

Family Vacations2021-08-22T11:46:36-04:00

Navigating the Holidays after Grief

Every year when August hits I am reminded that the holidays are right around the corner. The holiday season can be stressful on it own without the added layers of grief.  Grief is a difficult emotion to describe because it is made up of so many other feelings such as sadness, anger, devastation, and so [...]

Navigating the Holidays after Grief2021-08-22T11:39:32-04:00

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