Milestone Days

Our Journey to St. Paul

I took some time during the past week to do some deeper reflection on the past year and everything it brought up for me. There is no doubt that 2020 held many difficulties for all of us.  What I noticed for me is the disruption of pandemic affected me on a personal energetic level.  [...]

Our Journey to St. Paul2021-01-13T14:03:36-05:00

20 Years is a Long Time

We marked the 20-year anniversary of Leah’s death earlier this month. 20 years. That fact is enough to stop me in my tracks.  20 years is a long time. That’s what I thought when I first began to mark 20-year milestones; 20 years since I graduated grade school and high school, my 20-year wedding anniversary, [...]

20 Years is a Long Time2021-01-13T13:47:45-05:00

Finding Joy, Even in Grief

Is it possible to find small moments of joy when we are grieving, or when we are living through a pandemic? Each year when I enter into the portal of Leah’s death, it always takes me back to November of 2000. I remember how I felt when the police came into my office to [...]

Finding Joy, Even in Grief2021-01-13T13:40:43-05:00

My Grand Adventure

On July 24, 2020, I became a grandmother for the first time! I’ve known this was going to happen for a while, yet I wasn’t fully prepared for the flood of emotion that arrived upon the sight of my granddaughter’s face at 3 AM on a Saturday morning. It rocked my world like few [...]

My Grand Adventure2021-01-13T13:35:28-05:00

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination

Last week I invited friends and colleagues to share some of their new holiday traditions they started, after the death of family members. I've received many great re-imagined traditions as families search for new meaning celebrating the holidays without their loved ones present. My good friend Nancy Ruffner shared the following. When I read [...]

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination2020-02-03T13:41:39-05:00

Tales from My Journey

When I first started my year-long quest on my 64th birthday I thought I went into it with no expectations. I certainly didn’t expect to discover I needed shoulder replacement surgery. And yet, as I prepared for it, I found out that I held emotional baggage in my shoulder. I first thought that releasing the [...]

Tales from My Journey2020-02-03T13:46:59-05:00

Another Milestone

As I write these words, I am marking the 18th anniversary of Leah’s death. The week that starts with her accident and ends with her death is always different each year. There is always a surreal quality to them. I decided to take this day to be with my thoughts, to write, to contemplate, to [...]

Another Milestone2019-07-09T07:28:49-04:00

Profound Insights and Feeling What We’re Feeling

It’s back to school time. I live in an area with year round schools but I’ve been seeing back-to-school pictures and posts since July. It’s this time of year, however, when traditional schools return to class that remind me that I will soon be entering the months leading up to Leah’s accident. The new school [...]

Profound Insights and Feeling What We’re Feeling2018-08-22T18:38:16-04:00

Holidays and Milestones

As I look at my calendar, July 4th is just around the corner. One of the things I talk about often is how holidays and milestone days can bring up associative memories that remind us of our loved ones who have died.The 4th of July may not be a holiday that holds those kinds of [...]

Holidays and Milestones2018-06-28T15:12:42-04:00

Another Turn Around the Sun

As I write this, we’ve entered into my birthday month; by the time you read this, my birthday will have passed. There was a time when I didn’t look forward to my birthday; a time when my birthday didn’t live up to my expectation. The problem was, I didn’t really know what I wanted my [...]

Another Turn Around the Sun2018-06-17T11:52:22-04:00
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