Family Vacations

Recently we took a family vacation with our son and his family. We went to northern MN, to the boundary waters. The lake we were at was at the Canadian border. As a matter of fact, the border was in the middle of the lake. Here are some photos of our trip. I think they [...]

Family Vacations2021-08-22T11:46:36-04:00

Another Side of Grief

It’s been 8 months since we’ve moved to St. Paul from Raleigh, NC. We moved here to be closer to my son and his family. Our granddaughter Ayra was born in July of 2020, and after we met her, we knew that we wanted to be a part of her everyday life. One of the [...]

Another Side of Grief2021-08-07T11:31:44-04:00

The Rhythm of Time

One of the things that I often talk about is recognizing the impact that the rhythm of time has had on my grief journey. All throughout my life, I’ve always been fascinated by how time can feel different, depending on what is going on.  Maybe that’s why I was so aware of the surreal [...]

The Rhythm of Time2021-08-05T10:53:31-04:00

Our Journey to St. Paul

I took some time during the past week to do some deeper reflection on the past year and everything it brought up for me. There is no doubt that 2020 held many difficulties for all of us.  What I noticed for me is the disruption of pandemic affected me on a personal energetic level.  [...]

Our Journey to St. Paul2021-08-05T10:57:30-04:00

20 Years is a Long Time

We marked the 20-year anniversary of Leah’s death earlier this month. 20 years. That fact is enough to stop me in my tracks.  20 years is a long time. That’s what I thought when I first began to mark 20-year milestones; 20 years since I graduated grade school and high school, my 20-year wedding anniversary, [...]

20 Years is a Long Time2021-08-05T10:57:52-04:00

Finding Joy, Even in Grief

Is it possible to find small moments of joy when we are grieving, or when we are living through a pandemic? Each year when I enter into the portal of Leah’s death, it always takes me back to November of 2000. I remember how I felt when the police came into my office to [...]

Finding Joy, Even in Grief2021-08-05T10:58:13-04:00

My Grand Adventure

On July 24, 2020, I became a grandmother for the first time! I’ve known this was going to happen for a while, yet I wasn’t fully prepared for the flood of emotion that arrived upon the sight of my granddaughter’s face at 3 AM on a Saturday morning. It rocked my world like few [...]

My Grand Adventure2021-08-05T11:00:00-04:00

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination

  Last week I invited friends and colleagues to share some of their new holiday traditions they started, after the death of family members. I've received many great re-imagined traditions as families search for new meaning celebrating the holidays without their loved ones present. My good friend Nancy Ruffner shared the following. When I [...]

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination2021-08-05T11:01:59-04:00

Tales from My Journey

When I first started my year-long quest on my 64th birthday I thought I went into it with no expectations. I certainly didn’t expect to discover I needed shoulder replacement surgery. And yet, as I prepared for it, I found out that I held emotional baggage in my shoulder. I first thought that releasing the [...]

Tales from My Journey2020-02-03T13:46:59-05:00

Another Milestone

As I write these words, I am marking the 18th anniversary of Leah’s death. The week that starts with her accident and ends with her death is always different each year. There is always a surreal quality to them. I decided to take this day to be with my thoughts, to write, to contemplate, to [...]

Another Milestone2019-07-09T07:28:49-04:00

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