Holidays

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination

Last week I invited friends and colleagues to share some of their new holiday traditions they started, after the death of family members. I've received many great re-imagined traditions as families search for new meaning celebrating the holidays without their loved ones present. My good friend Nancy Ruffner shared the following. When I read [...]

Holiday traditions –an unexpected rumination2020-02-03T13:41:39-05:00

Holidays and Milestones

As I look at my calendar, July 4th is just around the corner. One of the things I talk about often is how holidays and milestone days can bring up associative memories that remind us of our loved ones who have died.The 4th of July may not be a holiday that holds those kinds of [...]

Holidays and Milestones2018-06-28T15:12:42-04:00

Lessons from 2017

As this year winds to a close, I’d like to share with you what I’ve been reflecting on for the last few weeks. At this time last year I was preparing for my book to be published and starting to think about how I was going to market it. When I revisited my musings from [...]

Lessons from 20172017-12-29T11:00:04-05:00

New Year Reflections

It’s that time of the year again. Time to reflect on the year that went before, and make intentions for the year spread out in front of us. For most of my life as the year waned, I would look back on the past year and berate myself for all the ways I perceived failure [...]

New Year Reflections2017-01-09T14:11:53-05:00

How Grief Changes Holidays

While visiting our son this month, I had another moment when the gift of being present revealed itself. In our work, the subject of death and dying is common. When we think of our own demise, it always seems like a lifetime removed from our daily concerns. I had one of those moments of clarity [...]

How Grief Changes Holidays2016-12-17T11:56:11-05:00

Feeling All of Your Feelings

I have been thinking a lot about feelings lately. Social media inundates everyone with demands to think positively, to be happy, and to not wallow in negative feelings. The double dose of holiday cheer, followed by New Year’s resolutions to think positively, can make you wonder what is wrong with you and you can feel [...]

Feeling All of Your Feelings2016-01-26T10:20:31-05:00

Holidays Can Be Difficult

Before Dan and I knew it, we found ourselves smack in the middle of another holiday season. This year we spent Thanksgiving at the outer banks with friends. It was our first visit there and like most holidays we are always ready to spend it in a way that does not resemble holidays of the [...]

Holidays Can Be Difficult2015-12-02T16:10:20-05:00

Associative Memories and a New School Year

This time of year is nostalgic for me. Ever since I had children in school, the end of summer and the start of school year have always been bittersweet. The start of a new school year brought to mind how much growth had occurred for my kids. The anticipation of a new school year, new [...]

Associative Memories and a New School Year2015-08-12T10:51:42-04:00

Reflections on the Unknown

I am writing this blog a couple of days early. I want to engage you during this in-between time. The days between the holidays are a time of reflection for me. A time when everyday life slows down a little bit. This has been especially true for me since our daughter's passing. As we adjusted [...]

Reflections on the Unknown2015-06-04T18:41:53-04:00

Navigating Grief During the Holidays

We are in the midst of the holiday season. Thanksgiving is just over. Dan and Pete's birthdays were this week, and Christmas decorations are going up all over town. If you have tuned in to my Navigating Grief During the Holidays phone calls, you have heard me talk about ways to enter this season with [...]

Navigating Grief During the Holidays2015-05-18T15:32:15-04:00