One of the questions I find myself asking myself as well as my clients, is, How does your grief journey call you to a greater purpose? Or Where is your grief journey calling you? These questions have been crucial in my own unfolding and transformation along the course of my grief journey. Dan and I [...]
Nothing can knock the wind out of our sails like the approach of a holiday or a milestone day. Even after over 21 years my daughter’s birthday can bring tears. Mother’s Day is bittersweet. The year-end holidays can bring sadness. All of these occasions also bring immense joy and celebration too. I didn’t come to [...]
One of the gifts of my grief journey was realizing that grief is a lifelong journey. That idea may have been peripheral before Leah died, yet as I navigated the months and years after she left us, I became much more aware of how grief affects our everyday lives. Before Leah died, I had experienced [...]
“One day every that Leah touched will be gone.” This thought haunted me in the early part of my grief journey. It felt like if I no longer had anything that Leah touched that our connection would be gone. I knew that this was not true. For example, I have her key ring with me keys. [...]
Blessings and Grace became the mantra of my grief journey. I found that each time I was able to meet my feelings of grief in my heart I would receive blessings and grace, each and every single time. When this first happened, I was perplexed. I didn’t think that I deserved to receive blessing and [...]
“What is the unseen force that keeps people from wanting to engage (their own) grief and avoid those who are grieving?” (From Chapter 10, The Alchemy of Grief: Your Journey to Wholeness) The answer to this question is what keeps me motivated to help others engage in their feelings of grief, and be with [...]
All my life I had been fearful of endings. Endings meant I would have to change the way I did things. Endings were uncomfortable. I did everything I could to hold on to things for as long as I could. And then Leah died, and I experienced an ending that I couldn’t undo. It was [...]
Rereading this chapter was interesting. It took me right back into the feelings that I had as I was beginning to find my voice in the middle of my grief journey. For years before Leah died, I had been working thorough childhood wounds. Leah’s death created a sense of urgency that I hadn’t felt before. [...]
If you are like me, the thought of renovating a house brings excitement. Renovations mean newness, new paint colors, new furniture, and perhaps new room configurations. Have you ever considered that in order to renovate, we first have to deconstruct the space? Demolition and deconstruction are messy. It is during this time that we may [...]
At the time of Leah’s death, Samyama had been a part of my life for seven years. It wasn’t a practice that I turned to daily; it was there when I needed a little more assistance contacting to my feelings. I didn’t realize at the time that Samyama would be my lifeline as I began [...]
