I had one of those moments this week. I was in the car on the way to an exercise class and I heard a song that reminded me of Leah. It took me back, body and soul, to the feeling of the finality of missing her physical being. I felt like I was going to [...]
The last few months have seen me spending an abundance of time on my book. Late last year, as I was reflecting on 2015 and looking forward to this year, the top goal on my list was to publish my book. To go from forthcoming author to published author. I knew, in order to do [...]
Today, while sipping my coffee, I read some postings on the Grief Toolbox. There was sharing, sadness, and resolve. Regarding one particular entry, I wrote: "Grief shows up uniquely for everyone. Just reading the posts, you see a wide variety of feelings. There was anger, sadness, and compassion. But the poem I read spoke of [...]
I have been thinking a lot about feelings lately. Social media inundates everyone with demands to think positively, to be happy, and to not wallow in negative feelings. The double dose of holiday cheer, followed by New Year’s resolutions to think positively, can make you wonder what is wrong with you and you can feel [...]
Before Dan and I knew it, we found ourselves smack in the middle of another holiday season. This year we spent Thanksgiving at the outer banks with friends. It was our first visit there and like most holidays we are always ready to spend it in a way that does not resemble holidays of the [...]
Early grief is a difficult topic that also requires a change in conversation. The difficulty encountered during this emotional time just occurs immediately after a loss. The feeling associated with early grief can be overwhelmingly challenging. Learned responses based on our own faulty observations do not provide sufficient skill to prepare us for large life [...]
The 15th anniversary of Leah’s accident and death was last week. This year’s experience was nothing like any of the preceding years and brought a few surprises. The previous weekend we visited our son in Minneapolis. We had a nourishing visit as always. We laughed and talked about silly and important things. We received lots [...]
Do you find yourself waiting until the perfect time to start something that needs to be done? Things like: working on a presentation, writing for your book, planning a special project, or unleashing your creativity? What happens when you wait for the perfect time or the perfect circumstances to start something new or continue an [...]
What does living in the unknown mean anyway? News flash, we always live in the unknown, we just think we are in control. I learned this lesson fast when my daughter died. Back then I was a certifiable control freak. I thought everything was in my control and if I worked hard enough, or did [...]
Life is full of lessons. From the time we first make our way into this world we are learning. Our first years are spent familiarizing ourselves with our environment and the people who care for us. We are eager learners taking in all that we see, touch, hear, and taste. The exuberance of a baby [...]
