I’m often asked if I am an intuitive or an empath when I ask a client a sacred question, one that hits the heart of the matter, or that cuts to the core of what they have been working on. A questions that brings clarity to what they thought of as chaos.
As a child growing up, I was often given labels.
The shy one, the stutterer, the oldest, (which carried expectations) the quiet one.
Because of this, labels have always made me cringe. I also cringed when I heard labels intended for others. In my heart of hearts, even when I was a child, I knew that I could not be defined by a label, that I was much more, and much less than anyone else’s perception of me. It took me a long time to be able understand who I was, and it was through my grief journey that I was finally able to step fully and unapologetically into my Self.
Even though I work intuitively, I don’t label myself “An Intuitive.”
Even though I am able to feel how my client is feeling, I don’t call myself “An Empath. “
To me these are labels that confine me in a box in which I don’t fit.
I’ve had business coaches tell me that I have to define myself in specific terms. And nothing ever resonated completely. I can tell you what I do, and I won’t confine myself to a box that limits who I am.
Sometimes I describe myself as a Grief Journey Guide.
That feels spacious enough to allow all of me to show up as I do in each moment. It also allows my prospective clients to get clarity on what that means. When I’m asked, “What does that mean?” or “What do you do as a Grief Journey Guide?” Then I get to tell them what I do, and more specifically, what our work together might look like, because by that time I’ve spent enough time with them to feel into where they are being called.
My work with each client looks a little different.
Since I don’t limit myself in to a specific way to work with everyone, we are free to explore where my client is being called at the specific time we begin working together, and the course our work takes is created from there. It all starts with presence. I teach a present moment awareness practice called Samyama, and then we see what arises. The present moment always holds the question that will allow my client to feel deeper into the answer.
My work can’t be described in a 30 second commercial. I don’t resonate with traditional marketing strategies. As a matter of fact, I don’t market my business.
I share who I am and trust that those who are drawn to my work will show up, and they always do.